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Those who are regular to serving Me will know that I've had horrendous problems with My spine for a couple of years. This has prevented Me from offering certain services, including foot worship shows. It's also rendered Me almost housebound due to being in chronic pain.
For those who don't know; a couple of years ago I injured My back whilst doing some heavy gardening. This led to a herniated disc in My lumbar region with constant sciatica in My right leg.
If you've never experienced sciatica before; let Me tell you that it is extremely painful. It's a constant dragging ache from the buttock all the way down into the foot, with intense spasms of shooting pain at frequent intervals. It's very debilitating and affects daily life, making even the simplest of tasks like getting dressed, very painful. Taking a shower becomes a mammoth task and as for walking normally - forget it! It's not happening.
Over the last 2 and half years; I've been prescribed countless painkillers which have done nothing. I've had 4 sessions of physiotherapy which actually made the situation worse. In the end; I was referred to a pain specialist, where I begged him to do something to get rid of the pain I've lived with for several years of My life.
Yesterday; I had a steroid epidural injection and a caudal nerve root block, in the hope that it would finally get rid of the pain and give Me back My life.
I have to say; the ESI was a breeze. Apart from the stick, sting and a burn of the local anaesthetic, I didn't feel a thing.
Then came the caudal nerve block...
Oh... My..fucking...God! I was NOT prepared for that one. In the literature I've received about the procedure; it proudly states that "most patients are able to tolerate the injection, with minimal discomfort."
What a load of utter bollocks!
Imagine having a ten-tonne articulated truck parked on your pelvis and you might get an inkling of just how much that shit hurts.
As soon as the shot hit that nerve root; I had been transformed from a "yeah, bring it on" cool as a cucumber patient to a "fucking get off me before I punch you in the throat" patient!
Two minutes of pure agony which seemed like 2 days. Imagine the pain of having somebody drilling into your tailbone and yet you have to remain completely still. Rather difficult to say the least.
"Would you like to squeeze somebody's hand?" the consultant asked to which I replied, "fuck yes!"
And boy did I squeeze!
In my painful delirium, I squeezed so hard, I'm surprised I didn't hear the poor lady's fingers snap, an indication of the crushing pain in My entire pelvic region.
"You're doing really well...not too long now" I was calmy informed by the consultant. Meanwhile; I've broken into a sweat and I've clenched My jaw so tight; I ground My teeth into powder.
After what seemed like several lifetimes later; the all whole process was done and I lay there panting in disbelief as I reminded Myself to never again believe any medical literature about any procedure being "well tolerated."
An hour later; I was back at home and over the space of literally 10 minutes; I felt the constant pain I'd experienced in My right leg fade until it had disappeared completely. Success! That feeling of being under a steel press was definitely worth it!
So now; I'm enjoying being relatively pain-free, apart from some residual pain in the injection site. And I shall enjoy it for as long as it lasts. It could be a day, weeks, or even a fair few months. It doesn't matter - I intend to make the most of it.
I shall enjoy doing the things I haven't been able to do for almost 3 years - like a walk down to the local shop for a pint of milk. Sleep in more than one position. Enjoy a full night's sleep without waking up in agony several times. And wear heels for longer than 10 minutes.
So to anybody who's having a caudal nerve root block; I say this to you. It's definitely worth it if it works for you. You will feel like a new person.
But for the love of God; don't pay attention to those who say "oh it's a breeze. You won't feel a thing!" They're fucking liars! If somebody with a very high pain threshold is transformed into a shaking, sweating mass of agonised groaning; then trust Me, that shit HURTS!
Next time; Mr "oh you're doing well...we're almost done" can knock Me the fuck out BEFORE he shoves anything in My back!
Oh and I apologise to My partner who was chided with "I'm not going over the top" when he wished Me luck....how wrong I was!
If you're new to the BDSM scene either as a Domme/Dom or sub; you may well have heard the term "aftercare" being banded about a lot. And today; that's exactly what we're going to talk about.
Aftercare is a very important part of any BDSM scene and is something you should never neglect. Your submissive is a living, breathing human being with thoughts and emotions. When they submit to you, they are showing themselves at their most vulnerable, and it is very important to ensure their physical and mental well-being is maintained before, during and especially after any play.
Physical aftercare can include a multitude of different things. For example; if you have given your sub a good caning, it is important to help the skin to heal even if you haven't broken the skin. The application of a soothing body lotion can help those buttocks to heal quickly and comfortably, especially if your slave has explicitly asked for you not to leave any marks.
It can also include the application of first aid in the case of cuts to the skin. Ensuring any wounds are cleaned and dressed, with instructions of how to maintain wound cleanliness and prevent infection. A form of aftercare I administer regularly; is the prevention of adverse reactions to nettle stings, if I've engaged in a nettle torture with a sub. Just because My sessions are online, doesn't exclude Me from giving out any sort of aftercare. If I don't ensure My sub receives the care needed to prevent adverse allergic reactions, I could actually be risking their lives.
So I advise them to take antihistamines and to apply calamine lotion to the areas of their body which have received nettle stings. The last thing I want a sub to do is go into anaphylaxis and end up being rushed to casualty as result of our play.
But aftercare isn't just limited to physical care, and it is very important to remember this.
During an intense BDSM session; your sub will experience extremes of emotion, which will change rapidly as the session progresses. This is because the act of being dominated sexually can cause the body to release a variety of different hormones and neuro-transmitters, in large bursts. Think about the "high" you get when you have an orgasm. That's the sudden release of serotonin. As the afterglow fades; you find yourself coming down from that high. That's the serotonin coming down after the peak. You may find yourself feeling weepy, low, and even guilty.
This is exactly what happens in a session. Some subs become so overwhelmed by the surge of hormones and endorphins, that their emotions may change dramatically. They may become tearful and depressed. They may start to suddenly tremble from the adrenaline rush. They may feel very fragile emotionally and physically. They may feel physically and emotionally drained. They may even find their emotions in a place they don't like - particularly in the case of a humiliation session.
It is of vital importance that you take care of your sub during these times. Cuddle them, tell them how happy you are with them, stroke them, treat them with gentle kindness - be HUMAN with them. Offer them a drink. The adrenaline come-down can often lead to a drop in blood sugar. So a cup of tea and a biscuit is essential to take those sugars back up again.
Many ProDommes will ensure all parties have tea after the session, as they debrief. It's informal and relaxed. Both Mistress and sub sip their tea, as they discuss their feelings about the session. This practise also helps strengthen the bond between you and your sub.
If your sub feels the need to be alone for a little while, then give them that opportunity. Just some time to lie down and take stock. But don't leave them entirely alone. Keep checking on them, to make sure they are okay. If they want to talk about their feelings, let them. If they start to cry, hug them. Provide the comfort they need, for as long as they need it.
One of the greatest misconceptions about BDSM is that it is all physical. In actual fact, BDSM is 10% physical and 90% psychological, because it can evoke so many strong feelings, thoughts and emotions. If your sub is not in the right "head space" for a session, then you risk causing some serious emotional harm. So be intuitive. If your gut feeling tells you "okay, this sub is not in the right place for this, now," then listen to that gut feeling. Don't force them when they are clearly not in the right frame of mind to play.
Pay attention to triggers as well. For some subs; certain BDSM practises and scenes can trigger emotions once felt in some past trauma. Be prepared for that and watch out for any signs. The moment you suspect traumatic emotions have been triggered, STOP. NEVER CONTINUE A SCENE if your sub is struggling to cope with it on an emotional level. If they need to put a halt to things, pay attention & stop. The play should be fun - not soul destroying.
I'm not suggesting you should become an amateur psychologist in these circumstances. Simply listening as they vent out their feelings, can be an enormous help. Providing links to further help, can also be of huge benefit.
Whether new or seasoned; aftercare in BDSM is never open for negotiation. Your sub has the right to be looked after before, during and after play. And you have a duty to look after them. Always remember that.
I have exciting news, worms! From today, You can all Me directly using My new Direct Call feature, whenever I am available.
This is a pre-paid service, which means it puts you in charge of your spend. You simply click the link to sign up to pre-paid service, top up your account with the amount you wish to spend and call! It's that easy!
Calls cost just £1 per minute and are billed very discreetly.
In addition; I now offer a prepaid payment/tribute service. This service can be used to pay for sessions, make a tribute or even pay for personal items I sell on occasion. Simply top up your account and make your payment/or tribute and that's it! If you are using this service to pay for a session, then make sure you advise Me of this in your payment message.
Do you have a dick the size of a peanut? Are you packing less meat than a vegan restaurant?
You're such a fucking loser, with that ridiculous little maggot dangling pathetically between your legs. I bet all the girls laugh at you when they're unfortunate enough to see you undressed!
Oh they haven't? Well they soon will!
I'm going to enjoy every delicious minute of making you squirm in shame. You know you're not a real man, so you deserve to be humiliated for My pleasure. That's why I'm going to expose your little pee pee to world. Let's face it; that little guy is nothing to be proud of. You probably stuff socks down your trousers to make it look as though you actually have a penis.
Well not any more. Your secret is out and the world is about to see how you have an acorn glued to the bottom of your torso. You're going to PAY Me to expose your little dick to the world. That's right - PAY ME for the privilege of allowing the world to see that you have a button mushroom between your thighs.
Perhaps you'll be so humiliated that your little nub will shrink even further? That would be so funny to see! It might even disappear inside you - meaning you don't actually have dick! Ha ha ha!
So; if you're ready to squirm in embarrassment for your "shortcomings"; click the link below and make your tribute. Tribute Me to My satisfaction and I'll invite you to send a picture of your ridiculous little worm; ready for Me to share on social media. Tribute Me VERY generously and I'll even mention who the worm is attached to.
So, are you read to die of shame and humiliation? Then it's time to amuse Me with your little clit-dick!
NEW LAPTOP FUND!
The time has come for Mistress to invest in a new laptop, in order to continue offering you boys the content you enjoy and the cam sessions you are addicted to.
And with this up-coming investment, comes the opportunity for you to get involved!
Now as I've previously discussed; I'm NOT a bratty Findom and I'm certainly not going to make demands of you. You will only give if you desire to. But what I am going to do is invite you to contribute to this important fund so that you can enjoy being a part of My happiness. It's a win-win situation - you put a smile on My face and you can continue to enjoy the wonderful and erotic clips, mp3 files, cam sessions I will be offering as a result of your generosity.
Those who are interested in contributing are invited to do so via amazon.co.uk gift voucher at the link below:
Amazon Gift Cards
You should send gift cards to My email address:
Once I've purchased & received My new laptop; I will be posting an extra special clip to publicly thank every boy who has been generous - and if you've contributed; you will be mentioned in the clip.
This is a wonderful opportunity to enrich My life and make your Mistress happy, the fruits of which I am sure you will enjoy!
Why your first impression is your one chance.
When you contact Mistress for the first time; it's important to be very conscious of the impression you want to create. Create a good first impression and you're likely to get a response. Create a bad first impression and it's likely that your email won't be read it it's entirety.
Those who have desire to serve Me should see My services as an exclusive online club. I pick and choose who I feel has what it takes to serve Me and believe Me; I have VERY high standards. I expect you to meet those standards from day one. If you don't; you can be sure that your chances of serving are non-existent.
Here are My Dos & Donts on how to ensure you convey the right impression in your initial application:
DO ensure your email is polite and courteous. This means using the correct salutation. I never respond to emails which do not start with "Dear Mistress."
DON'T assume things about Mistress. You run the risk of asking for things Mistress doesn't offer. This shows Me you haven't made the effort to do your homework.
DO introduce yourself to Mistress in a well-written and succinct manner. While I don't want to read an application which is the length of War and Peace; neither do I want to read an application of only one sentence.
DON'T expect a chance to serve in return for gifts or tributes. Gifts are given freely, without expecting anything in return.
DO include details are your kink interests and fetishes. I want to ensure we have mutual tastes before I consider you.
DON'T be vague when it comes to your kink interests and fetishes. Mistress is not a mind-reader.
DO indicate how you wish to serve, i.e. webcam, phone or email. Again, Mistress is not a mind-reader.
DON'T make demands. Emails containing the words "I want" are ALWAYS ignored.
DO explain how you feel you can be useful in entertaining & amusing Mistress. Remember; your servitude is not about your needs. It's about the desires of Mistress.
DON'T expect to explore ass worship from the off. You are expected to prove yourself to be worthy before I consider you for that. The same applies to consensual blackmail.
DO tell Mistress about your hard limits. And be honest about this! I want you to enjoy yourself. I don't want you find our sessions to be a bad experience.
DON'T assume anything about Mistress' hard limits. If in doubt, ask. Never guess!
DO be respectful in your email. Applying to serve Me is a lot like applying for a job. A casual over-familiar application is not going to create a good first impression.
DON'T be obsequious. I can instantly tell when you're attempting to butter Me up. I also find begging for attention a definite turn off. Those tactics will never wash with Me.
DO retweet and promote Mistress if you follow Me on social media. This shows you are devoted and eager to please.
DON'T assume you will be owned or under consideration from the first session. This takes time. It takes servitude, devotion, obedience & loyalty and is not always guaranteed.
DO tell Mistress about any previous experience you have had. It helps to know how seasoned you are in the world of fetish & BDSM.
DON'T send pictures unless Mistress specifically asks for them. NEVER EVER send dick pics. That is the fastest route to being blocked.
DO be patient. If Mistress is interested; I will contact you. If you do not hear from Me within in a week, you should assume you have failed to interest Me. Neither will I accept a second application from you. If you have failed to interest Me; then your journey has ended and it's time to move on.
DON'T apply to serve if you are owned or under consideration by another Domme. I'm nobody's second choice - especially not yours.
DO volunteer information about any BDSM equipment you own. This helps to map out a possible session.
DON'T negotiate on My rates. I'm not a market stall. NEVER attempt to get a "free taster". I'm not a car you can take for a test drive.
DO include your date of birth. Remember; you MUST be aged 21 or over to serve Me.
DON'T badger Mistress with repeated emails if you haven't received a response within minutes of sending the first one. It will only suggest that you are needy. I have no use for needy boys.
DO ensure you have a basic knowledge of BDSM BEFORE you apply. You cannot go into the scene blindly. It will almost always end badly for you.
DON'T assume you will receive relief every time. It is My choice as to when and indeed IF you are deserving of it.
DO proof-read your initial email before you send it. Spelling and grammar mistakes tell Me that you are lazy and lack attention to detail.
DON'T make declarations of love. It's creepy and it's a definite turn off.
DO make Mistress aware of any health issues you have. Safe, sane & consensual play is paramount.
FOOT WORSHIP SESSIONS SUSPENDED.
Unfortunately; due to ongoing problems with My spine, I am unable to offer foot worship sessions at this current time. I hope that they will be available again in the near future, but for the sake of My spinal health, I have no choice but to put them on a temporary hiatus.
I am currently undergoing treatment for this issue, but progress is slow and treatments are rather conservative at the moment. It is possible that I may need surgery if current treatment methods do not cure the problem.
Rest assured; as soon as I'm able to do foot worship sessions again, I will let all you foot-lovers know.
In the meantime; apologies for any inconvenience caused.
Not sure if Mistress offers exploration of your particular fetish? Here's a list of things I am more than happy to explore!
Foot Fetish/Foot Worship
Looning/Balloons (with 24 hour's notice)
Small Penis Humiliation
Tease & Denial
Ruined Orgasm/Orgasm Torture
Strap On Training/Worship
Welly Fetish (with 24 hour's notice)
Latex (with 24 hour's notice)
Total Power Exchange
Water-sports For Him (you indulge for My amusement)
Sticky Tape Fetish
Trainer/sneaker Fetish (with 24 hour's notice)
Sploshing Fetish For Him (you indulge for My amusement)
Water Fetish for Him (you indulge for My amusement)
Covered Ass Worship
Smoking Fetish (you indulge for My amusement)
This list is not exhaustive and you may well have a fetish I haven't encountered before. If so; you can discuss with with an open-minded Mistress without judgement.
Every wanted to discuss your fetish? Want to know more about it? Want to know how to take it further? Perhaps you fetish is impacting on your vanilla life?
I'm happy to chat and help point you in the right direct.
Feel free to get in touch to book an online sessions, at the link below:
HOUSEHOLD KINK EQUIPMENT
Not everyone has the luxury of being able to stockpile loads of BDSM & kink equipment. Perhaps financial constraints permit this. Or maybe vanilla lifestyles make it impossible. But that doesn't have to prevent you from enjoying spending some online time with Mistress. That's why I have come up with a list of household kink toys, you can always use during our sessions:
Wasabi Paste (not for the feint of heart)
Fresh Ginger (not for the feint of heart - bring chopped cucumber)
Fresh chillies (not for the feint of heart - bring chopped cucumber)
Toothbrush & toothpaste
Ball of String
Toilet Roll Tube
Rolled Up Socks