BDSM As Therapy.
In today's fast paced and demanding world; don't we all wish we could just take time out and let somebody else handle all the responsibility, if just for a little while?
How many of us long to go back to the days when we were children? Life was so much easier then. We had no worries or cares. All we cared about was if Santa would bring the present we desperately wanted or if we should have coco pops or shreddies for breakfast.
Everybody has an amount of stress in their lives. It could be a little or it could be a lot. Some are able to cope with stress and high-pressured environments. Some cannot handle it. Some learn how to use stress to their advantage. Some go to pieces. The fact is; we ALL need a certain about of stress in our lives - it's what help us to get up in the morning. But sometimes; that stress can get to a point where we feel as though our lives are spiralling out of control.
When we are faced with more stress than we can handle; we become rather like a champagne bottle which has been shook up. It fizzes and gurgles until finally; it cannot take the pressure and the cork explodes out of the bottle; releasing the fizzy wine like a fountain.
This is when all of our frustrations, all of our pent up emotions come out in extreme emotional ways. We cannot bottle up our feelings; because inevitably, they will be released in an explosion of emotion.
But how do we prevent ourselves from getting to that state in the first place?
We take time out from reality.
Think back to being a child again. When we got over excited or overwrought; our parents had us endure a few moments on the "time out" step or in the corner to cool down. As adults; we can't realistically do that, so we use other ways to take time out from the world, so that we can de-stress and re-charge.
When a submissive surrenders control to a Dominant partner; that is their form of taking "time out". It can be an enormous relief to just allow somebody else take responsibility for a change. Giving over your body and mind and allowing somebody else to make decisions for you is often a form of therapy to those who are in positions of power in their vanilla lives. They need that balance to keep the equilibrium in their lives. Let's face it - being in control 24/7 is exhausting - and NOBODY can keep it up without some form of release, whether it be a positive or negative release.
To many submissives; indulging in some time of somebody else being in charge, is rather like regressing to the care-free days of being a child. They don't have to think. They don't have to make a plan. They just go with the flow and accept that somebody else is now responsible for them, if only for a little while. They enjoy the release of being free of responsibility, if just for a little while.
I thoroughly enjoy allowing My clients to enjoy this feeling. I want them to get the best out of this special time out, so that not only can they explore their fetishes and kinks, but they can leave the session feeling refreshed and happy, ready to go back to taking control in the real world again.
BDSM & submission is not just about the physical aspects of the scene. It's about the psychology of the entire fetish. A private place where the mind can be at peace and the body can be controlled without the submissive even having to think about it. No pressure. No stress. Just some time for them to enjoy being dominated and indeed nurtured at the same time.
To Me; dominating a submissive is a lot more than simply ensuring they do as they are told. You take on multiple roles during the process - nurturer, psychologist, nurse, protector, and teacher. You are responsible for them during your time together, and it's important to be responsible not just for their physical well-being, but also their emotional well-being.
In My sessions; I want to enjoy Myself, but I will only do that if My sub enjoys himself. When both parties have had some quality time then you have found a quality relationship. And it's amazingly therapeutic for both.
BDSM is probably not going to make it's way to any accredited therapy list any time soon. But when it comes to making therapy exciting; what a better way to do it!