COMING SOON TO 2018 - CUSTOM RECORDINGS!
Would you like the opportunity to listen to Mistress use Her seductive voice to tease you into a frenzy? Perhaps I will call you by your name; and command you to do My bidding, with My voice dripping with both sex and venom? Either way; I guarantee to have you weak and falling to your knees in no time!
Coming in early 2018 is the opportunity to request a custom recording from Me. These recordings will be available exclusively via NiteFlirt, and will be available ONLY to you. NOBODY else will hear it.
To request a custom recording; all you will need to do is contact Me via My NiteFlirt profile, stating your desired content and length of recording required. Provided I agree to your request; I will then send you a link for you to send payment. Turn around for custom recordings will be 7 days, but during busy times, this may be longer. You should state if you require your recording as a matter of urgency.
My custom recordings are £20 for a 15 minute mp3 file.
I will create recordings for the following categories:
Jerk Off Instruction
Tease & Denial
Cum Eating Instruction
Small Penis Humiliation
Fantasy Role Play
My feelings on Financial Domination
inancial Domination is not an exact science and it is true that there are an awful lot of myths surrounding the fetish.
While I am proud to be a Financial Mistress; I'd like to make it absolutely clear that what I am not is a bratty Princess. That's not to say there is anything wrong with using that approach. If that is which works for you; then of course you are entitled to adopt that method. But for Me; the whole process of financially dominating a slave is something I have a different approach on.
The question I'm often asked is; "why would a slave choose to spend ridiculous amounts of money on a Financial Dominatrix?" The answer to this question is quite simple - because they want to. I do not demand to be paid. I do not bully subs to pay Me. I simply ask and they give; because they have a desire to give to Me. I allow My slaves to enjoy the opportunity to spoil their Mistress in order to prove their devotion.
However; this is not something which happens overnight. They will only spoil Me when they are ready to spoil Me and this is something which takes time. It is during this time that I will get inside their heads and find what makes them tick. When I have found what their weaknesses are; I use them to develop an honest and open relationship with My submissives; which is based on trust, honesty and absolute obedience.
To Me; establishing and maintaining an ongoing rapport with a submissive, is the very foundation of Financial Domination. One cannot simply expect to encounter a sub & demand that he will pay from the off. Why would you consider spending money on somebody you don't know? Instead; I choose to exploit their weaknesses as we get to know each other and decide whether the relationship is or isn't going to work. Submission is either given or it isn't.
That said however; the early part of the relationship; the INVESTIGATION part doesn't come for free. My slaves approach Me for webcam domination, phone domination or Email domination. They may even approach Me to be dominated via text message. But they still have to pay to enjoy this service. They are not paying to worship Me at this point. They are paying to enjoy My services, skills and knowledge on the subject of BDSM and fetish.
Over time; as the relationship grows; so does the desire to worship their Mistress. I never force or demand that My slaves buy Me things or send Me money. Yes; I will request certain things, but there is no forcing or bulling in My Financial Domination training. I may set My slaves a target task and invite them to contribute to it. And this allows My slaves to join together and contribute to something big in My life.
But I never demand. I ask and invite. And as is usually the case; I don't need to even ask. My slaves will OFFER gifts and cash because they are so hooked and turned on by the idea of worshipping Me. They are so devoted and besotted with Me that they want to be part of My life and part of My happiness. To be given the chance to worship Mistress and make Her happy is an honour and a privilege and it makes them feel special to be able to do so. Proving their devotion to Me makes them happy. And it makes Me happy too. What could possibly be wrong with that; when all parties are happy?
Financial Domination is not all about money. It's about getting to know your slave, and how much they enjoy being submissive. My slaves thoroughly enjoy being submissive to Me and they love it when I use My Domination skills, knowledge and experience to put them in that deliciously submissive place. They like to be in this place and want to stay in it.
Submission is never enforced in a slave. It is inspired when you have made that connection with your submissive. When you have established that connection and learned to nurture it for BOTH parties; that's when you are mutually experiencing true Financial Domination.
Financial Domination is not something to be undertaken on a whim, and this is particularly important if you are a sub interested in experiencing Financial Domination. What you must always remember is that it isn't your money which motivates and attracts Me. In fact; if I feel you do not understand the fetish or that you are not suitable to serve Me financially; I will have no qualms about REFUSING your tributes and gifts.
Sending Me an email with "please rinse me Mistress" or "Mistress; I need you to blackmail me and ruin my life!" is NOT going to attract My attention. I have received countless messages like this over the years and I have ignored every single one. Those who are desperate and beg for attention; rarely have any real use or anything interesting to say or add to My life.
The correct way to approach is to tell Me what you would like to do to contribute to My lifestyle and enquiring as to how you may go about doing so. If you are a well mannered gentleman who isn't begging and showing how clueless and ignorant you are; you are more likely to get a response. While pathetic slaves are useful in terms of amusement and entertainment; they are NOT useful when it comes to Financial Domination and their methods will not wash with Me.
To Me; Financial Domination is complex but comes naturally when is done right. It is about building a connection and a relationship; to encourage and inspire a sub to contribute and worship of their own free will. I personally enjoy the connection I have with My subs when I speak with them on webcam. It's fun to find out all about them; to chat with them; to find out about the sort of things they like and to have fun with them. Serving a Dominatrix and Financial Domme should not just be about whips, chains and humiliation. It should also be about fun so that the experience is enjoyable for both parties. And further down the line; as you begin to enjoy My company more and more; if you wish to worship Me financially, then it is your choice to do so. You might want to purchase a gift from My wishlist or send Me a gift voucher. You might even want to tribute via NiteFlirt. But you will only do this once you are ready to do so. I won't be forcing you to do this. You will give freely because I am inside your mind and I have inspired you to want to this.
Neither will I bankrupt you. Another thing I am definitely NOT is a home-wrecker. I understand that you have a life outside of servitude. You have financial responsibilities and likely a family or partner to support, and I believe in keeping it real. Your vanilla life is just as important; if not more so, and it is for that reason that My slaves only give what they can truly afford. Yes, they may want to give up a trip to the cinema or a night out on the town. They would prefer to spend their money on Mistress; rather than wasting it on frivolities like alcohol. They buy Me a gift but are still responsible for ensuring their household bills are still being paid. It is a consensual financial relationship between Domme and sub.
Financial Domination when it is done right; can lead to a beautiful, lasting relationship. All you have to do is to learn about Me via My website and watch My clips and decide if you would like to be part of something special and contribute to My lifestyle. If you are ready to take the next step to be inspired to show your devotion; then get in touch and correctly express your desire to worship. It is that simple and it's also a lot of fun!
FEES V TRIBUTES - What's the difference?
While I'm proud to say that I do enjoy the psychological thrill of Financial Domination; I'm a Professional Online Dominatrix first and foremost. Why am I telling you this? Because there seems to be some confusion over tributes and fees.
It is a common misconception that I will take tributes or physical gifts as payment for sessions. For example, yesterday I encountered a sub who purchased a gift from My Delivery Code wishlist - he purchased this with the sole intention of having a session and some Email Training with Me. Yet, when I advised him that gifts do not pay for sessions; he seemed to be rather confused. He'd sent tribute so he should be entitled to serve online, right?
Tributes and gifts are not accepted as forms of payments for online training. Why? Because they are GIFTS. And gifts are given willingly, without expecting anything in return. When you give somebody a birthday gift; do you expect them to give you a gift back, even though it isn't your birthday? Of course not. You give them a gift because you care and because you appreciate them.
It's the same when giving gifts to Mistress. If you're buying gifts with the sole aim of getting something in return; then you're not really understanding the whole concept of gifts.
Tributes are exactly the same - except these are financial gifts; given freely without expecting anything in return. They are simply to show devotion and appreciation to Mistress and they DON'T pay for sessions.
Fees on the other hand; do pay for My time and they are not open for negotiation. To attempt to haggle or negotiate on My fees is offensive and extremely disrespectful. And let Me tell you; the gift this person sent yesterday will not even begin to cover the cost of said expected 30 minute Skype session. So not only has he insulted Me by hoping he could curry My favour with a gift; he's also dictated the price - not the way to do things.
When you contact Me to request a Skype session or some other form of online training; provided I am interested in training you, I will tell you exactly the cost of all the fees involved. I will then expect you to pay them BEFORE any session or training begins. New subs will be expected to pay via Delivery Code voucher. Those I know and trust will be permitted to pay via Amazon Gift Card - that is electronic gift card to My email address - not a code from one you bought in a shop. Payment isn't made until the card has landed directly into My inbox. It basic sales etiquette - the sale isn't closed until payment is made in full.
So why don't I accept gifts in lieu of fees? It's quite simple. Gifts can and are cancelled. There are some unscrupulous folks out there who will try whatever they can to get a free session and sadly some inexperienced Dommes and Findoms have fallen foul of this trick. Sub purchases a gift; Domme gives him a cam session and the gift never arrives - said Domme has given said "sub" a free session and the time She could have given to a genuine fee-paying sub.
I'm not about to fall for that. You don't work for free and neither do I.
The fact is; when you request to serve Me, you also agree to abide by the rules. These are MY rules. I make them. You obey them. You don't obey them because I'm Mistress and you're slave. You obey them out of respect and common courtesy. Every single sales transaction comes with a set of terms and conditions. There's no getting away from that. The fact that it's in the Adult Industry is irrelevant. Sales are sales and terms are terms. Respect them and earn My respect in the process.
BDSM As Therapy.
In today's fast paced and demanding world; don't we all wish we could just take time out and let somebody else handle all the responsibility, if just for a little while?
How many of us long to go back to the days when we were children? Life was so much easier then. We had no worries or cares. All we cared about was if Santa would bring the present we desperately wanted or if we should have coco pops or shreddies for breakfast.
Everybody has an amount of stress in their lives. It could be a little or it could be a lot. Some are able to cope with stress and high-pressured environments. Some cannot handle it. Some learn how to use stress to their advantage. Some go to pieces. The fact is; we ALL need a certain about of stress in our lives - it's what help us to get up in the morning. But sometimes; that stress can get to a point where we feel as though our lives are spiralling out of control.
When we are faced with more stress than we can handle; we become rather like a champagne bottle which has been shook up. It fizzes and gurgles until finally; it cannot take the pressure and the cork explodes out of the bottle; releasing the fizzy wine like a fountain.
This is when all of our frustrations, all of our pent up emotions come out in extreme emotional ways. We cannot bottle up our feelings; because inevitably, they will be released in an explosion of emotion.
But how do we prevent ourselves from getting to that state in the first place?
We take time out from reality.
Think back to being a child again. When we got over excited or overwrought; our parents had us endure a few moments on the "time out" step or in the corner to cool down. As adults; we can't realistically do that, so we use other ways to take time out from the world, so that we can de-stress and re-charge.
When a submissive surrenders control to a Dominant partner; that is their form of taking "time out". It can be an enormous relief to just allow somebody else take responsibility for a change. Giving over your body and mind and allowing somebody else to make decisions for you is often a form of therapy to those who are in positions of power in their vanilla lives. They need that balance to keep the equilibrium in their lives. Let's face it - being in control 24/7 is exhausting - and NOBODY can keep it up without some form of release, whether it be a positive or negative release.
To many submissives; indulging in some time of somebody else being in charge, is rather like regressing to the care-free days of being a child. They don't have to think. They don't have to make a plan. They just go with the flow and accept that somebody else is now responsible for them, if only for a little while. They enjoy the release of being free of responsibility, if just for a little while.
I thoroughly enjoy allowing My clients to enjoy this feeling. I want them to get the best out of this special time out, so that not only can they explore their fetishes and kinks, but they can leave the session feeling refreshed and happy, ready to go back to taking control in the real world again.
BDSM & submission is not just about the physical aspects of the scene. It's about the psychology of the entire fetish. A private place where the mind can be at peace and the body can be controlled without the submissive even having to think about it. No pressure. No stress. Just some time for them to enjoy being dominated and indeed nurtured at the same time.
To Me; dominating a submissive is a lot more than simply ensuring they do as they are told. You take on multiple roles during the process - nurturer, psychologist, nurse, protector, and teacher. You are responsible for them during your time together, and it's important to be responsible not just for their physical well-being, but also their emotional well-being.
In My sessions; I want to enjoy Myself, but I will only do that if My sub enjoys himself. When both parties have had some quality time then you have found a quality relationship. And it's amazingly therapeutic for both.
BDSM is probably not going to make it's way to any accredited therapy list any time soon. But when it comes to making therapy exciting; what a better way to do it!
August Ames 1994 - 2017
This week; the adult entertainment industry was met with the sad news that Adult Entertainment star, August Ames was found dead in California, at the age of just 23, of apparent suicide.
August, who has appeared in approximately 290 movies and won 2 AVN Awards, had battled depression throughout her life, struggling with child abuse, drug abuse as will as other mental health disorders; appears to have taken her life after being bullied by online trolls who labelled her as being "homophobic", after refusing to perform with a male performer who had previously performed in gay sex movies.
Citing a lax in standards for HIV testing in the gay porn industry; August defended her right to exercise sexual autonomy amid hateful trolls on twitter, who were relentless in their cyber-bully; hounding a 23 year old woman until she felt she had no choice but to take her own life.
To Me; August's story highlights the need for better respect and understanding of the rights of those working in the Adult Industry. Quite rightly; August chose to put her health first. And why shouldn't she? It is her body at the end of the day, and she has to right to say who does and doesn't go inside it. It has nothing to do with being prejudiced or "homophobic". It's about a young woman protecting her well-being. This is something every single human being on the planet has the right to do. So why should that right be ignored because it's regarding somebody who works in the Adult Industry?
It is so sad that there are people in this world who are seemingly unwilling or unable to look beyond the entertainment persona, and see the person behind it. Adult Entertainers are not robots who will put their own health at risk because you want to get your rocks off. Behind every Adult Entertainer is a living, breathing human being with emotions and a beating heart. THEY are on control of their own body. And they are allowed a say in what happens to it. Bullying an Adult Entertainer because she has the right to say "no", is NEVER appropriate; no matter how you try to justify it.
With sex workers fighting to keep their industry safe and free from exploitation; it is a sad state of affairs when it is the very audience being entertained, who turn on them when things don't go the way they want it to. Since when did consenting adults become pieces of meat to be abused and bullied because they are being "paid"?
At the end of the day; these are people who are doing a job. Wouldn't you want to be treated fairly in your job? Wouldn't you want your rights to be recognised? Wouldn't you feel bad if you were expected to ignore your health because entertaining others is more important?
Supporting sex-workers and those in the Adult Entertainment Industry is a lot more than simply paying to view their content. It's about respecting them as human beings. Respecting their boundaries and understanding that they have the right to refuse if a particular activity would put their health a risk.
If anything can be learned from the tragic death of August Ames, it is that there needs to be a better understanding of the personal rights of sex-workers. We also need to address the issue of cyber-bulling. Tech firms have been instructed to tackle the issue of online trolls. Yet we are still seeing cases of people being driven to taking drastic measures like suicide and self-harm, as a result of online bullying.
Social media is both a blessing and curse; but while we can be responsible for ourselves; social media companies need to be responsible for how it's users conduct themselves when interacting with others. NOBODY deserves to be bullied online. Until these tech companies address this issue; I fear we will see even more tragic cases like this. When did a human life become "collateral damage" in the economic success of social media?
Your Mistress will be available for Online Sessions on the following dates and times during the holiday season:
MONDAY 18 DECEMBER 12.30pm until 4.30pm
TUESDAY 19 DECEMBER - NOT AVAILABLE
Wednesday 20th December - NOT AVAILABLE
Thursday 21 December 12.30.pm until 4.30pm
Friday 22 December 12.30pm until4.30pm.
Saturday 23 December 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Sunday 24 December - NOT AVAILABLE
Monday 25 December - NOT AVAILABLE
Tuesday 26 December - NOT AVAILABLE
Wednesday 27 December 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Thursday 28 December - 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Friday 29 December 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Saturday 30 December 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Sunday 31 December - NOT AVAILABLE
Monday 1 January - NOT AVAILABLE.
Wednesday 3 January 12.3pm until 4.30pm.
Thursday 4 January 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Friday 5 January 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
Saturday 6 January - NOT AVAILALE
Sunday 7 January 12.30pm until 4.30pm.
NORMAL SERVICE RESUMES FROM MONDAY 8 JANUARY.
Text Chat & Voyeur Cam bookings will be available 7.30pm until 10pm every evening with the exception of Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day, New Year's Eve and New Year's Day.