FEES V TRIBUTES - What's the difference?
While I'm proud to say that I do enjoy the psychological thrill of Financial Domination; I'm a Professional Online Dominatrix first and foremost. Why am I telling you this? Because there seems to be some confusion over tributes and fees.
It is a common misconception that I will take tributes or physical gifts as payment for sessions. For example, yesterday I encountered a sub who purchased a gift from My Delivery Code wishlist - he purchased this with the sole intention of having a session and some Email Training with Me. Yet, when I advised him that gifts do not pay for sessions; he seemed to be rather confused. He'd sent tribute so he should be entitled to serve online, right?
Tributes and gifts are not accepted as forms of payments for online training. Why? Because they are GIFTS. And gifts are given willingly, without expecting anything in return. When you give somebody a birthday gift; do you expect them to give you a gift back, even though it isn't your birthday? Of course not. You give them a gift because you care and because you appreciate them.
It's the same when giving gifts to Mistress. If you're buying gifts with the sole aim of getting something in return; then you're not really understanding the whole concept of gifts.
Tributes are exactly the same - except these are financial gifts; given freely without expecting anything in return. They are simply to show devotion and appreciation to Mistress and they DON'T pay for sessions.
Fees on the other hand; do pay for My time and they are not open for negotiation. To attempt to haggle or negotiate on My fees is offensive and extremely disrespectful. And let Me tell you; the gift this person sent yesterday will not even begin to cover the cost of said expected 30 minute Skype session. So not only has he insulted Me by hoping he could curry My favour with a gift; he's also dictated the price - not the way to do things.
When you contact Me to request a Skype session or some other form of online training; provided I am interested in training you, I will tell you exactly the cost of all the fees involved. I will then expect you to pay them BEFORE any session or training begins. New subs will be expected to pay via Delivery Code voucher. Those I know and trust will be permitted to pay via Amazon Gift Card - that is electronic gift card to My email address - not a code from one you bought in a shop. Payment isn't made until the card has landed directly into My inbox. It basic sales etiquette - the sale isn't closed until payment is made in full.
So why don't I accept gifts in lieu of fees? It's quite simple. Gifts can and are cancelled. There are some unscrupulous folks out there who will try whatever they can to get a free session and sadly some inexperienced Dommes and Findoms have fallen foul of this trick. Sub purchases a gift; Domme gives him a cam session and the gift never arrives - said Domme has given said "sub" a free session and the time She could have given to a genuine fee-paying sub.
I'm not about to fall for that. You don't work for free and neither do I.
The fact is; when you request to serve Me, you also agree to abide by the rules. These are MY rules. I make them. You obey them. You don't obey them because I'm Mistress and you're slave. You obey them out of respect and common courtesy. Every single sales transaction comes with a set of terms and conditions. There's no getting away from that. The fact that it's in the Adult Industry is irrelevant. Sales are sales and terms are terms. Respect them and earn My respect in the process.